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		<title>One Year (ish)</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[She’s been one year old for almost three weeks already, and I haven’t found a time or a way to write about it. The days are just clipping by so fast. She’s had a string of minor health annoyances- a &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2012/04/one-year-ish/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>She’s been one year old for almost three weeks already, and I haven’t  found a time or a way to write about it. The days are just clipping by  so fast.</p>
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<p>She’s had a string of minor health annoyances- a cold, a vax-related  fever, now an ear infection- so our baby, world’s least cuddly child,  occasionally deigns to let us snuggle her in the rocker at bedtime  because she’s feeling poorly. I find myself in this conflicted place of  wanting to snuggle her and sniff her fuzzy head and feel the weight of  her little form on my lap forever, but also half-hoping she’ll Heisman  me in the throat and say  “bup! bup!” like she does when she’s had  enough of my tiresome cuddling and wants to get back to exploring,  because oh, it’s so pitiful when she’s sick.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/IMG_1187.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-1816" title="IMG_1187" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/IMG_1187-225x300.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="300" /></a></p>
<p>She&#8217;s getting kind of terrifyingly good at exploring. She found a chocolate cheerio  on the floor the other day and had it in her mouth, half-swallowed,  before I even noticed. I cannot remember the last time we had chocolate  cheerios in the house. Four months ago? Five? I heaved up a small prayer  that this antique cheerio will be of the “good for building immunity”  variety and not the “bound to cause some horrible Victorian illness”  sort, and let her finish swallowing it. (Those teeth are sharp, yo. Fish  things out of there at your peril.)<br />
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She has all these WORDS now. Bup. Doggie. Daddy. Mama. Wow. Hiiiii.  Bye Bye. Uh oh. Oops. Bubbles. Night Night. Book. She knows one sign, for “more,”  except I think she must believe it means “please, beloved maternal figure,  give me that to which I point” based on the way she frantically jams her  tiny index finger into her palm whenever she wants something. “More  what?” we say. “More what, baby?” And then she points to the remote, or  John’s electric razor, or my wine glass. Or, her current favorite, her  nightlight, which she loves to snuggle. Never something normal like a  cracker or a teddy bear. The <em>nightlight</em>. I mean, honestly. This kid.</p>
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She’s actually noticing and enjoying books, will sit on our laps and  eagerly stick her fingers in the little holes on the pages of The Very  Hungry Caterpillar. She thinks Pigeon is kind of a goofball. Goodnight  Moon? Eh, that’s for the birds. She’d prefer a nice rollicking rendition  of Hippos Go Berserk, thanks.</p>
<p>We have turned into those people who stare, dopey-eyed with love,  and watch their kid play with blocks. She carefully and deliberately  places them in the pail, then takes them back out, then puts them back  in. We have passed entire afternoons this way. We should probably be  getting her some more advanced toys or something, but for now she seems  content with her blocks, and this annoying light up drum her grandmother  got her for her birthday. I should have expressed great enthusiasm for  light up and noisy toys when I was pregnant- that would have ensured  that all her gifts would have been hand-hewn wood Waldorf toys or  something. As it is, our parents seem to delight in finding the loudest,  most plasticky, battery-munching toys they can. Also: clothing with  glitter. And of course, she loves nothing more. I suppose we deserved  that.</p>
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<p>January 1 of 2011, a little less than three months before she was born, I  started a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/5-Year-Diary-Black-Cover/dp/0977648133">5 year diary</a>. I have never successfully kept a diary in my  life, but I had this idea that it would be fun to be able to look back  and see what we were doing a year ago, two years ago, etc, given how much our  lives were likely to change in 5 years. And no one is more surprised  than I that I’ve actually done it, I’ve dutifully written my 2-3 lines  every night, noting baby milestones and world events side by side. So  for the past few weeks, as I’ve written the day’s lines, I’ve gotten to read back to last year, reliving the earliest days of her life, and Holy Moses: that is some effective birth control. I can feel the  panic in my words as I fretted about whether she’d ever sleep, whether  I’d ever make enough milk to feed her, whether I’d ever stop feeling  like this delirious cracked eggshell person and start feeling like  myself again.</p>
<p>And now here we are a year later, with this running pointing dancing  eats-like-a-frat-boy PERSON, and I am so relieved at how much better it  got, so grateful that we got such a neat kid.</p>
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<p>Happy birthday to our Nora Bora, Goober, Muffin, Nuggs.  Sorry it’s three weeks late, but you might as well learn now- your mom  isn’t so great with the timeliness. But she loves you like whoa.</p>
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		<title>The new normal</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Mar 2012 02:28:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;How’s the new job going?&#8221; people ask, and I pause. There are so many things to say. It’s great. I get to write briefs for a living, which I love. The facts of my cases are interesting. I work a &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2012/02/the-new-normal/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;How’s the new job going?&#8221; people ask, and I pause.</p>
<p>There are so many things to say.</p>
<p>It’s great. I get to write briefs for a living, which I love. The  facts of my cases are interesting. I work a predictable eight-hour day. I  get to work out on my lunch break, so I no longer feel so squishy. I’m  home every day by 5:30, giving me at least an hour and a half to play  with my kid before she goes to bed. We take a walk as a family every  morning. I have time to cook dinner. I don’t worry about work on the  weekend. Ever.</p>
<p>It’s lonely. The people here largely keep to themselves, many of them  just like me- nose to the grindstone, in and out so they can get back  to their families and their lives outside the office. I spend way too  many hours hunched in front of a computer. I never have any breaks for  anything, even meetings. Who&#8217;s have thought I’d miss meetings? My office has no  window. Everything is beige. I’m pretty sure my secretary hates  me. I write a lot of briefs where the only issues I am able to raise are  the kind of &#8220;technicalities&#8221; that cause laypeople to roll their eyes,  or fold their arms in anger. Most of the money I make goes right back  out the door to child care.</p>
<p>And then there’s the stuff that I can no longer say. &#8220;I’m working on this  crazy case right now, gearing up for trial, it’s a lot of late nights.&#8221;  &#8220;Oh man, I watched [judge x] absolutely dress down [lawyer y] at the  motion hearing, it was amazing.&#8221; &#8220;Oh yeah, I did see [person] at [large  networking event,] she and I were just talking about how to get  [exciting new project] off the ground!&#8221;</p>
<p>I wouldn’t say I <em>miss</em> those things, exactly, but I’m coming to  understand how much I’d become accustomed to a more traditionally successful career- the busyness, the proximity to  well-known and well-respected colleagues, the potential for big,  prestigious long-term things on the horizon &#8211; as being the currency in  which I described my life, justified my worth. Yes, I hated every time  that I was late coming home to my kid, resented having to log more hours  after she was in bed on a weeknight, grumbled about how much of the law  feels like inside baseball. But there was also undeniably a certain  perverse status derived from those things. If I was working so hard, it  must be important, so *I* must be important. Yes, my schedule was  running me ragged, but I was doing complex, interesting stuff that my  peers found respect-worthy. I was on an upward trajectory. I had great  future prospects.</p>
<p>And now&#8230;well, my life is smaller, but in a really good way. I chose a steady, reliable,  predictable job. I have reclaimed things I love, like cooking, and  running, and reading for pleasure. I’m employed in my chosen field,  doing interesting work, and I still have a life. I’m living the dream!  It’s never going to win me any awards or earn me millions of  dollars or land me any appointed positions, but that’s okay.</p>
<p>So when  someone asks me how it’s going, I don’t launch into a long explanation  like this one- I simply say, truthfully, that I have never been happier  with the balance between my work life and my other life.</p>
<p>But I no longer have a place at the &#8220;whose career is more demanding/intense/upwardly mobile&#8221;  table- because my work life isn&#8217;t demanding/intense/upwardly mobile at all. And that’s a good  thing, it is, I wouldn’t trade it, but – it’s strange to no longer be a  part of that conversation. I meet my law school friends for lunch and  they’re all killing themselves and I don’t want to <em>be</em> them,  exactly, but I feel a little bit like I’ve sold out the sisterhood by  stepping off that path. My whole life my self-worth has been largely defined by  working hard, striving, achieving &#8211; and it’s a little disorienting to  suddenly no longer have that laid out before me.</p>
<p>Truthfully, I’ve always been on a slightly different path than most  of my law school peers- I never worked the really insane crazy hours  that many of them do, was never going to be a partner at a big firm,  never going to make millions &#8211; but I was striving on my own  public interest achievement path, such as it was. It may not have been  defined by earning potential, but it was there. And now it’s not, so  much.</p>
<p>And I’ve always been interested in reading about the  experiences of other professional women as they develop their careers  and their lives. And it seems like so many of us (particularly lawyers) get to this point, where the striving becomes untenable, so we step off. I had wondered if I&#8217;d find myself here, and now here I am. No longer contemplating the next  move, just&#8230;living my life as it is now. Smaller, but better. It’s  mostly great, and a little poignant.</p>
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		<title>Welcome, February</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 02:10:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well. January was kind of busy, in a not-great way. We dealt with a lot of persistent low- to medium-grade stuff that is not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things but that caused a fair amount of &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2012/01/welcome-february/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well. January was kind of busy, in a not-great way. We dealt with a lot of persistent low- to medium-grade stuff that is not a huge deal in the grand scheme of  things but that caused a fair amount of stress as it unfolded. Our nanny  resigned to take her dream job (great for her, substantially less great  for us). We interviewed about 4 million duds to replace her. I got rear  ended on the freeway by a car going at least 45 while I was at a stop.  The driver’s cut-rate insurance company  is giving us the runaround. Poppy keeps digging so deep into her ears  that she draws blood but seems otherwise fine, causing me to fret that  I’m allowing her to suffer ear infections unassisted by medicine. I got a  hole in my shoe and now my socks get wet while I walk to work. Dunkin  Donuts made my coffee wrong this morning. You know, earth-shattering  stuff.</p>
<p>But what I want to talk about, the thing that’s been really weighing me down, is the ice pile.</p>
<p>This is the ice pile.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/ice-pile-21.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-1789" title="ice pile " src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/ice-pile-21-e1328061765867.jpg" alt="" width="480" height="640" /></a></p>
<p>It is exactly what it looks like: a whole city block’s worth of ice and snow, shoved onto our front lawn by the gas company.</p>
<p>See, the gas company is doing work in the area, replacing all the  meters inside people’s homes (which are over 100 years old) with meters  that will be on the outside. The sidewalks in the neighborhood are all  torn up and there are big holes and piles of  sand everywhere, and the days are spent enduring thrumming deep  vibrations from the drilling, which moves our glassware and threatens to  send bottles tumbling off the shelves in our bar. They have had  temporary no parking signs on our block for almost a month. It’s a  tremendous pain in the ass.</p>
<p>And then one day I came home from work and the entire street had been cleared of ice and snow, and all of that ice and snow had been deposited on my front lawn.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/ice-pile-1.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-1788" title="ice pile 1" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/ice-pile-1-e1328061729780.jpg" alt="" width="640" height="480" /></a></p>
<p>See, ours is the only house on the block that does not have a  wrought-iron fence in front. When we bought the house,  we viewed this as a positive thing: it seemed more open and friendly.  But since we’ve moved in, we have realized that it’s actually a problem.  Because ours is the only accessible lawn, it serves as the universal  toilet for all neighborhood dogs, many of whose owners feel unencumbered  by the social norms that dictate they should scoop their poop. Every  day, the mailman trudges across our grass rather than walk on the paved  path. On Halloween, ours is the house still getting doorbell rings at  10:30 pm from un-dressed-up teenagers, because we have no front gate to  lock.</p>
<p>And apparently, our lack of fence is seen by the gas company as an open invitation to use a freaking bulldozer to shove all the ice  and snow in the neighborhood (plus a healthy portion of sand and dirt  and other grit) onto our (privately-owned) lawn. WHEN THERE IS A  PERFECTLY SERVICEABLE CITY-OWNED GRASS PLOT ONLY THREE HOUSES DOWN AT  THE CORNER.</p>
<p>Guys, I kind of lost it.</p>
<p>I said swear words. I sighed deeply. I went into the house and was  about to start complaining about it to our nanny, and that’s when she  let me know that she had to give me her two weeks’ notice because of the  new job. I’m blaming the ice pile for our amazing nanny quitting.</p>
<p>The thing about the ice pile was not just that it was annoying, and felt awfully inconsiderate of the gas company. It’s that the ice pile represented a REALLY LOT OF ICE. Ice  that is FROZEN WATER. Sitting 2 feet from our basement windows.  Remember our basement? With which we have had a lot of flooding trouble?  Which is finally dry, after much time and money and work?</p>
<p>Yeah, I was not all that pleased to have 12 cubic feet of frozen water sitting adjacent to my newly-dry basement.</p>
<p>So the next morning, I approached the gas crew as I walked out the door to head for the train.</p>
<p>&#8220;Hey guys,&#8221; I said in as rational a tone as I could muster. &#8220;I live in that green house there- the one with the ice pile in the front yard? We are sort of not delighted about that ice pile,  because if it melted, it would definitely be enough water to flood our basement, and it’s  supposed to get warm pretty soon, and no one actually asked us if it was  okay to put the ice and snow there in the first place&#8230;.so when do you guys think you’re going to move that?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Uh&#8230;..&#8221; they said, looking at each other blankly. Then, one of them said &#8220;we’ll definitely move it when we’re done.&#8221;</p>
<p>Done? With what, exactly? With fixing all of the 100+ year old gas pipes in the area? As in, many moons from now? Hm.</p>
<p>But I was also pretty sure that these guys were not actually in charge of the ice pile, so I just sighed and walked to work.</p>
<p>Several days later, the ice pile was still in our yard, and my blood pressure elevated every time I saw it.</p>
<p>&#8220;We have to call the gas company and complain,&#8221; said John. &#8220;It’s  supposed to warm up a lot in the next few days. It’s all going to melt,  and our lawn is going to be ruined, and our basement can’t take it.&#8221;</p>
<p>He was right. So I prepared to do battle with the gas company. I  walked outside with my trusty iphone and, in full view of the gas crew,  took several pictures of the ice pile,  from several angles. I was going to be armed with photo evidence to  explain why, exactly, it was not okay that they were using our front  yard as a dumping ground, even for something as innocuous as shoveled  snow.</p>
<p>And then, something miraculous happened. That night, when I came home, the ice pile was gone. It had been relocated to (ahem) the parking strip at the corner.</p>
<p>I am 100% certain that seeing us take pictures of the ice pile  was what finally spurred the gas crew to action. Perhaps they thought I  was going to call the papers, or post it on my blog, and they got  nervous. Perhaps they feel I bullied them into moving it by threatening to expose them. Whatever, I do not care, the ice pile is gone.</p>
<p>I do not view it as a coincidence that shortly therafter, we found and hired a new nanny.</p>
<p>(Yeah, now there are huge bulldozer divots in our lawn and John’s car  is still broken and the insurance company reps are still being  assholes, but whatever. Progress. I’m going to eat a cookie and hope  February gets its act together.)</p>
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		<title>GMMA Day 5: Readers&#8217; Choice and Wrapup</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 23 Dec 2011 12:00:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Oh, you guys. I know I don&#8217;t hang out in this space as often as I&#8217;d like anymore, and I virtually never post five times in a week these days, but this Giving My Money Away thing is one of &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-5-readers-choice-and-wrapup/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh, you guys. I know I don&#8217;t hang out in this space as often as I&#8217;d like anymore, and I virtually never post five times in a week these days, but this Giving My Money Away thing is one of the highlights of my year, no lie. I love doing the research into places both familiar and new to me, I love writing about good people doing important work, and I love hearing from you about the issues about which you feel passionate, and the organizations you&#8217;re proud to support.</p>
<p>This year, in a change from years&#8217; past, most of the votes I got for Readers&#8217; Choice charities were general, not specific. The majority of comments I received fell into one of two camps: food pantries, and no-kill animal shelters.  Well, those are both causes I support, too.  So in a departure from past years, instead of putting a poll in this space, I&#8217;m going to make a $25 donation each to <a href="http://www.chicagosfoodbank.org/site/PageServer">The Greater Chicago Food Depository</a>, and <a href="http://www.pawschicago.org/">PAWS Chicago</a>.  Both are awesome organizations, four-star rated on Charity Navigator, with a proven track record. I&#8217;m delighted to support them both.</p>
<p>Frankly, it&#8217;s always sort of troubled me how to choose among the many great organizations recommended by people, particularly when so many have similar missions and I&#8217;m not in a good position to evaluate their efficacy. This way, I hope, I&#8217;m honoring the spirit of what people recommended, and giving to two very worthy and reputable organizations.</p>
<p>So thank you again, for your support and your enthusiasm for this weird little project of mine. I love doing it, I love hearing from you, and I can&#8217;t wait to do it again next year. Happy Holidays!</p>
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		<title>GMMA Day 4: Growing Power</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2011 12:00:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[We&#8217;re nearing the end of GMMA for 2011- today is the last day I&#8217;ll be featuring an organization of my own selection; tomorrow I&#8217;ll be featuring a selection of those nominated by you! So if you want an organization near &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-4-growing-power/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>We&#8217;re nearing the end of <a href="www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-1-bundle-of-joy">GMMA for 2011</a>- today is the last day I&#8217;ll be featuring an organization of my own selection; tomorrow I&#8217;ll be featuring a selection of those nominated by you! So if you want an organization near to your heart to be in the running for a $50 donation, tell me about it in your comment!  Thanks!</em></p>
<p>I recently read <a href="http://www.animalvegetablemiracle.com/">Animal, Vegetable, Miracle </a>(the whole Kingsolver canon is available for Kindle download through our library, and this one weirdly had no wait list) and I liked it way more than I expected to.  I&#8217;m not quite ready to cast aside this urban life and take up farming myself, but in reading it I *was* reminded anew how many city-dwellers, poor city-dwellers in particular, are entirely removed from access to fresh healthy foods, let alone foods locally grown.</p>
<p>The concept of a food desert isn&#8217;t a new one, but it&#8217;s apt in many Chicago neighborhoods. Many of us struggle to &#8220;eat healthy;&#8221; imagine how much harder that would be if you lived in an area where the only places to buy food are corner stores and maybe a Walgreens.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/growing-power.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-1777" title="growing power" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/growing-power.jpg" alt="" width="200" height="192" /></a></p>
<p><a href="www.growingpower.org">Growing Power</a> is technically a national nonprofit, but most of their work is in the Midwest, and I know them for their work in Chicago.  The organization&#8217;s mission is to create what it calls Community Food Systems.  In the organization&#8217;s words:</p>
<blockquote><p>these systems provide high-quality, safe, healthy, affordable food for all residents in the community. Growing Power develops Community Food Centers, as a key component of Community Food Systems, through training, active demonstration, outreach, and technical assistance.</p></blockquote>
<p>In <a href="http://www.growingpower.org/chicago_projects.htm">Chicago</a>, that means several urban farms that train community members (including youth, who have a heck of a time finding summer jobs to keep them off the streets) in farming, so that their communities have access to fresh, healthy, affordable food regardless of their economic circumstances.  Growing Power&#8217;s farms sell to restaurants and grocery stores, and have recently started providing food to Chicago Public Schools (a HUGE deal, as you know if you have any experience with the microwaved-in-plastic, highly processed food served in most school lunch programs.)</p>
<p>Particularly compelling to me is Growing Power&#8217;s work in the community that used to be Cabrini Green, one of the most notorious public housing high rises in a city <strong>full</strong> of notorious public housing high rises.  As the Cabrini buildings started coming down and the area redeveloped as mixed-income housing, the neighborhood changed so quickly (picture an enormous whole foods and rei being built virtually across the street and you&#8217;ll have an idea) that generations of the neighborhood&#8217;s residents, and the redevelopment&#8217;s mixed-income ideals, threaten to be subsumed by the pace of gentrification. Since 2003, Growing Power has operated a large and vibrant community garden on a patch of land that used to be part of Cabrini:</p>
<blockquote><p>the overarching goal of the community garden is to help facilitate a thriving diverse community and ensuring that present residents are not cast aside in this process of transformation. . . the farm empowers neighborhood youth and residents to have increased economic opportunities through access to organic produce, nutritional education, and work-force training.</p></blockquote>
<p>Cool, right?  Will Allen, Growing Power&#8217;s &#8220;Farmer in Chief&#8221;, is kind of a big deal- he&#8217;s a MacArthur Genius Grant recipient and a James Beard Award winner. Guy knows his stuff. But for me, it&#8217;s the micro, community-level focus of Growing Power that is so compelling. They actually make a fair amount of their operating budget by selling their produce, so strictly speaking they are not entirely dependent on donations. But I think their work is so cool, and their mission so important, that I&#8217;m happy to feature them here, and to help in some small way.</p>
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		<title>GMMA Day 3: The Women&#8217;s Treatment Center</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Dec 2011 12:00:03 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>By now, we know the drill, yes? I tell you about a really cool organization doing important work, you leave a comment, I give them more money. Fun, right? More details <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-1-bundle-of-joy/">here</a>. </em></p>
<p>No GMMA extravaganza would be complete without an appearance by this next organization:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/twtc.png"><img class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-1773" title="twtc" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/twtc-300x87.png" alt="" width="300" height="87" /></a></p>
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<p>Like <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-2-the-cara-program/">the Cara Program</a>, the <a href="http://www.womenstreatmentcenter.org/">Women&#8217;s Treatment Center</a> takes a problem &#8212; in this case, addiction &#8212; and provides concrete, essential services to help women address it.  There are thousands of children in the Chicago area alone whose parents struggle with drug addiction.  For women with children, beating drug addiction is not just about beating the substance- it&#8217;s about figuring out who is going to care for your children while you do, and repairing your relationship with them as you get better.</p>
<p>The mission of The Women’s Treatment Center is “to provide women with  a continuum of care, recovery tools, and parenting skills to maintain a  sober lifestyle as they rebuild their lives and mend the bonds with  their families.”</p>
<p>TWTC  provides essential medical, mental health, and social services in a setting that can accommodate children in  residential treatment.  That means that while they are receiving  treatment, mothers receive parenting classes and guidance, and are able  to continue to build and repair relationships with their children,  rather than being separated from them for weeks or months at a time.   TWTC is also one of the few facilities in the  country that has a  crisis nursery, which can provide 24-hour care for a woman’s children  when she is unable to care for them herself.  This reduces one of the  major barriers to treatment, as a woman can enter detox knowing that her  children are safe, well cared for, and close.</p>
<p>In short, The Women’s Treatment Center is committed to helping women  conquer substance abuse while honoring, protecting, and building  essential family relationships.  Its programs address the parallel  issues of treating substance abuse and taking proactive steps to prevent  child abuse and neglect.  It’s an important place, and I’m happy to  support them every year.  Thank you all for helping, too.</p>
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		<title>GMMA Day 2: The Cara Program</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2011 12:00:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Welcome to Day 2 of my 4th Annual Giving My Money Away festivities! To recap: I feature a charitable organization and guarantee them a minimum $25 donation; and then I add to that based on your comments, 50 cents apiece. &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-2-the-cara-program/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Welcome to Day 2 of my 4th Annual Giving My Money Away festivities! To recap: I feature a charitable organization and guarantee them a minimum $25 donation; and then I add to that based on your comments, 50 cents apiece. Good times!</p>
<p>I have spent a lot of my life working with various populations that are categorized as &#8220;at risk.&#8221; At risk youth in an education setting, at risk adults struggling with addiction, depression, and crippling poverty; at risk individuals who are struggling to get back on their feet after periods of incarceration. It is easy enough to say that folks out to pull themselves together and get a job. But it is so, so hard to do that when you&#8217;re staring 100 different road blocks in the face. It&#8217;s hard to get a retail job if you read at a 4th grade level. It&#8217;s hard to land a janitorial position if you&#8217;ve never been on a job interview. It&#8217;s tough to get any on-the-books employment if you don&#8217;t have an address to put on your resume because you&#8217;re homeless.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/cara-program.gif"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-1769" title="cara program" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/cara-program.gif" alt="" width="279" height="237" /></a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.thecaraprogram.org/">The Cara Program</a> is a proven, step-by-step program that prepares adults who have struggled with homeless, poverty, incarceration, and other challenges not just to enter but to succeed in the workforce.  Human services agencies all over Chicago refer people to the program who they believe are ready to take on the serious work of becoming job-ready (including strict selection criteria that includes a phone interview and a drug test.)  The Cara Program is probably best described in its website&#8217;s own words:</p>
<blockquote><p>We don&#8217;t shield  students from the realities they will face in the workplace; rather, we  recreate the workplace here at The Cara Program.  We deploy an  experiential training approach that reaches beyond what we teach in the  classroom and extends into the very fabric of every student&#8217;s experience  at The Cara Program.  We give them a manager, a work team, and  responsibility.  We make them accountable to themselves, accountable to  their team, and accountable to the Cara community at large.</p></blockquote>
<p>Students receive training in job readiness with classes like professionalism, customer satisfaction, computer skills, and interviewing competency.  What makes the Cara Program so cool, and so effective, is that students simultaneously receive wrap around services from career and life coaches, who help students address their own individual barriers to job readiness (such as housing stability and access to child care).<br />
Students have the opportunity to participate in a program-sponsored internship, and get job placement services with employer partners.  This part is key, too: the program doesn&#8217;t just get students *a* job, it strives to get them a good, living-wage job:</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Rather than finding &#8216;just any job&#8217;  for our students, The Cara Program commits to working with companies  that offer a competitive combination of wages and benefits</span>.  We have  formal standards in place for evaluating what qualifies as a &#8216;quality  job&#8217; (where quality is measured by exceeding a certain number of  guaranteed hours worked, wage, availability of benefits  and permanency  in the position). As a result, our employed students&#8217; current average starting wage is $11.09/ hour at an average of 39 hours/ week.</p>
<p>We  partner with companies that find real value in working with The Cara  Program to fill their entry-level positions.  Companies typically tell  us that Cara students are, on the whole, more motivated and more  prepared for their entry-level positions than are non-Cara candidates.</p></blockquote>
<p>The program&#8217;s numbers are startling for their success: 72% of program graduates not only land a job, but still have that job a year later.  Anyone who has worked with adults struggling to become attached to the workforce will tell you: it&#8217;s job retention that is the kicker, and it is incredibly difficult to obtain.  The Cara Program&#8217;s successes are truly remarkable.  And on top of that, Charity Navigator gives The Cara Program a 4-star rating, reserved for those organizations that exemplify transparency, accountability, and sound financial practices.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m super excited to feature this organization, and hope that many of you will help me out with your comments!</p>
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		<title>GMMA Day 1: Bundle of Joy</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Dec 2011 12:00:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Welcome, friends, to one of my favorite holiday traditions: The Fourth Annual Pseudostoops Giving My Money Away Extravaganza! For anyone who may be new, here is how this works: each day this week I will feature a different charitable organization &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/gmma-day-1-bundle-of-joy/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Welcome, friends, to one of my favorite holiday traditions: The Fourth Annual Pseudostoops Giving My Money Away Extravaganza!</p>
<p>For anyone who may be new, here is how this works: each day this week I will feature a different charitable organization to which I had already planned to give money at the holidays.  I am committing to give each featured organization a minimum $25 donation.  Here is the twist: I invite everyone to read about the charity and, for every comment that I receive on the post, I’ll donate an additional 50 cents. Comments will remain open until the next day&#8217;s post goes up. You get to give money to charity, without having to spend any! Fun, right?</p>
<p>I like to use this space to feature smaller and local charities that do important work in my community. It&#8217;s not that I don&#8217;t also appreciate and support the work of much larger charities &#8211; I certainly do &#8211; but in every community there are smaller organizations filling real need, and I love being able to shine a small light on some of those great organizations.</p>
<p>Your comment need not say anything in particular (I have had many people just say “comment!” every year, and that’s fine!) but if you want, you can tell me a little about one of YOUR favorite charities.  On Friday, I’ll select five charities that other people have mentioned and set up a poll.  The charity that gets the most votes will get a $50 donation from me.</p>
<p>So! Let&#8217;s do this. Tell your friends, tell your blog and your Twitter stream, tell the random person you see on the street.  Strain my wallet.  Lets do some good things for people who really need it at this time of year.</p>
<p>*****<br />
The first organization I&#8217;m featuring this year is unapologetically inspired by the work of one <a href="http://www.emilycassee.com/not_that_you_asked/2011/11/diaper-delivery-day.html">Emily Cassee</a>, who took what started as a partnership with Huggies and ran with it, independently raising money for a local diaper bank.</p>
<p>Today, I feature a diaper bank that is local to me: <a href="http://www.bundleofjoydiaperbank.org/">Bundle of Joy</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/bundle-of-joy1.png"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-1765" title="bundle of joy" src="http://www.pseudostoops.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/bundle-of-joy1.png" alt="" width="211" height="86" /></a></p>
<p>As you may know, food stamps and other public assistance do not cover the purchase of diapers, and families are often driven to extreme lengths to try to conserve and reuse disposable diapers. Lack of access to clean diapers, in addition to causing families stress and embarrassment, is linked to real health problems.  No baby deserves that. Diapers are one of the first items to be snapped up at food pantries; they&#8217;re hard to keep on shelves.</p>
<p>Bundle of Joy was started by parents who were inspired to act after learning about diaper need in the area.  They donate diapers to food pantries and child care agencies throughout the city.  Bundle of Joy is 100% volunteer-based, meaning 100% of all donations go directly to purchasing diapers for families in need. That&#8217;s pretty remarkable.</p>
<p>So get to it! Leave a comment, and I&#8217;ll donate 50 cents to Bundle of Joy. Let&#8217;s help some families in need this holiday season.</p>
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		<title>You know, typical Thanksgiving stuff</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Dec 2011 04:00:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Thanksgiving was so long ago by now that people have probably forgotten it happened, but this story bears telling, I think.  Better late than never and all that. I love Thanksgiving- a holiday devoted to eating, and no gift stress! &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/12/you-know-typical-thanksgiving-stuff/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanksgiving was so long ago by now that people have probably forgotten it happened, but this story bears telling, I think.  Better late than never and all that.</p>
<p>I love Thanksgiving- a holiday devoted to eating, and no gift stress! Seventeen kinds of carbs! A socially acceptable time to eat Cool Whip and jellied cranberry sauce shaped like a can!</p>
<p>But in recent years, it&#8217;s gotten a little stressful in my house. My wonderful mother, who usually hosts and cooks, wants so badly for everyone to be happy, wants everything to be perfect, that she gets anxious, and stressed, and doesn&#8217;t seem to enjoy herself, and we in turn don&#8217;t enjoy OURSELVES, such is our stress at observing her stress, and&#8230;well, ours can&#8217;t be the only family like this, right?</p>
<p>Anyway, so this year, I had a few days off around Thanksgiving, because I changed jobs. (Yes, again. Changing jobs is, apparently, my job. This one is for good! Or at least for longer than  a year! Swearsies!)  With that extra time, I volunteered to cook the entire meal. I like cooking, it doesn&#8217;t stress me out, I figured it&#8217;d be good for everyone.  We&#8217;d eat on time! There would be no tears! We would finally have enough stuffing!</p>
<p>Foolish, foolish me.</p>
<p>It almost came off without a hitch, until the cranberry sauce gave my mother a black eye. Yes, really. Something about the fridge door hitting her elbow and bonking the dish into her eye on its way to the floor? I&#8217;m still a little unclear on details.</p>
<p>Yeah, we didn&#8217;t eat on time.</p>
<p>Still, all was not lost. This Thanksgiving will live forever in our memories as the year that my family embraced Flo Rida.</p>
<p>You know, Flo Rida? Or, as I call him, Flo, for short? The rapper?</p>
<p>This guy:</p>
<p><iframe width="560" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/UDAaevTq51I" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>It was all my grandmother&#8217;s fault, obviously.</p>
<p>My grandmother came for Thanksgiving from California. She&#8217;s 93, and doesn&#8217;t get around too much, so her shopping options are limited. However, she loves Poppy more than anything on earth, I think, and would not stand for coming to Thanksgiving without a gift. So she hired a taxi to drive her to the Hallmark store to buy something. There, she found a little reindeer that sang and danced, and thought Poppy would get a kick out of it.</p>
<p>She didn&#8217;t look too closely, and didn&#8217;t recognize the song, but no big! It was catchy!</p>
<p>Damn if she wasn&#8217;t right.<br />
<iframe width="560" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/SgM3r8xKfGE" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe></p>
<p>Yes, inexplicably the dancing reindeer rocks out to the musical stylings of Flo, and my kid&#8217;s favorite song is now &#8220;club can&#8217;t handle me.&#8221; And my dad knows the words. My mom, too. Thanksgiving win.</p>
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		<title>Health Kick: Learning to Run. Again.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Nov 2011 15:23:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It was about two years ago at this time that I started training to run a half marathon, an undertaking that I considered to be fairly ludicrous, but one I somehow managed to complete.  I trained over the winter, in &#8230; <a href="http://www.pseudostoops.com/2011/11/health-kick-learning-to-run-again/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It was about two years ago at this time that I started training to run a half marathon, an undertaking that I considered to be fairly ludicrous, but one I somehow managed to complete.  I trained over the winter, in snow, ice, what have you, and by the time I ran the half in New Orleans in late February, I was so used to running in the cold that I pretty much overheated in New Orleans&#8217; pleasant 60 degree weather.</p>
<p>Somewhere along in there I actually really started to like running.  Well, that&#8217;s not quite accurate. I often didn&#8217;t like the actual act of running, particularly starting a run. But it became my favorite way to exercise- outdoors, solo, music in my ears, rhythmic, efficient.</p>
<p>And then I got pregnant, tried running for a while, gave up, had a kid, moved to a new house, quit the gym, went back to work, tried to fit into my pants, ate more than my fair share of doughnuts, and finally thought &#8220;huh, I should probably just start running again.&#8221;</p>
<p>So here I am, very slowly trying to figure this all out again.  Wondering why, if I could run 13 miles just two years ago, a quick 2 miler sometimes makes me fear my lungs will burst.  Feeling lucky if I can squeeze in two runs a week instead of the 4-5 I was doing before. Cursing the alarm clock when it bleats at me at 5:30, when the baby is miraculously still sleeping and honestly shouldn&#8217;t I be sleeping too but I have TRIED working out after dinner and it just doesn&#8217;t work so it&#8217;s now or never, self. Get out of bed.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m slow. My heel hurts. I feel stupid in my traffic-cone-orange pullover that I wear to make sure I&#8217;m visible during my pre-dawn runs.</p>
<p>But today, I took my first run in bel0w-freezing temperatures and even though it kind of sucked, even though I got a cramp and my breathing never found a rhythm, the cold air and the pre-dawn light (thank you, end of daylight saving time, for putting that pink glow back in the sky,) felt good. I was glad to be out there.</p>
<p>Because I am a crazy person, I&#8217;ve committed to running the same half I ran two years ago, in New Orleans in early March.  (Full disclosure: I am running it as a relay with a friend, because for all my big talk, I&#8217;m not at all convinced I&#8217;ll be able to squeeze in ten mile training runs over the winter on icy roads with no gym membership to give me a treadmill backup. I&#8217;m not THAT crazy.) This does mean that at some point, I&#8217;m going to have to start running more than a 5K at a time, which right now seems kind of laughable. But I think it&#8217;s good to have a goal because otherwise, I might not do this at all.</p>
<p>So, friends, you&#8217;ve been warned. I&#8217;m probably going to start talking about running again. I&#8217;ll try to keep the douchey self-reflective posts like this one to a minimum, but I can make no promises.</p>
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